maturity in love (Reflection)
Nobody wants to fall in love after your loved one go to another or to stop return that love. No one was home waiting for the marriage lasts only a while and then separated. But these situations often occur in life. For reasons that can justify or not, the other person can stop loving each other.
If you have shared many moments of happiness, the loss of the loved one is devastating.
Many people try to recover all costs the beloved. This can lead to humiliation and undermine itself. Such behavior not only get back to the person, but on the contrary, the farther yet. You may become temporarily, but almost certainly will go after causing yet more suffering.
For a relationship is mature, stable and constructive, both should want to have it freely.
In situations of estrangement or separation there are only two alternatives. Follow humbling or try to rebuild their lives.
The greatest happiness is to have someone to love, before to be loved. Since both events occur simultaneously, there is confusion on this. It thinks: "I'm happy because he / she loves me." But really, I should say: "I'm happy because I have love." Realizing this is a step toward healing. It may be difficult for someone like me, but in the world more than six billion people who need the love
It is therefore advisable to seek activities which you can pour your love into the community, to others. You probably have skills, talents and gifts that you can share with others, bringing joy and attention. Paid work will give eating, but healthy selfless service and feed your spirit.
After making a reasonable effort to recover the person you love your effort turns to have friends without seeking future partners, but simply to cultivate friendship. Try sincerely interested in others and seeks to share activities.
Any day it may happen that one of those friends will become your new company in life. Any day start to love again and you will notice that there is happiness, which can be even happier than before because now there is more experience and maturity.
can never forget someone, because everything is recorded on the back of your mind. Reminds people who are not with you in good times they shared, not blame or the blame, as this does not work for nothing. Do not shun the memory of that person, because the more you try to forget, more is present in your mind. If you find that person, face it naturally, without accusations or demands. If that restaurant you remember it, do not run from it, but take your new friends to share there. So the restaurant will be associated with other people. Do that with all the places they shared.
All, all people who loved the left over time become known to another and to be happier. This is because love again. This will happen sooner with you and you are free from guilt, remorse and fear, you happen faster.
After this liberating process find a new love. And sometimes, in a few cases, you reunited with your former love. If both had a maturation process, it is possible to rebuild a relationship under new terms. But if not, fine too, because you will have matured and evolved to find other loves in your life.
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